No Time Like The Present.

My name is Deola,

I have been threatening to begin a blog for two years.
I have been aiming to finish writing a book for three years.
I have been preparing to share my works and writings at shows and events wherever they might have me. perennially.
I have been waiting.
Procrastinating.
Wasting.

I can speak with almost as much confidence for the majority of my generation as I can for myself when I say we are a people who like to 'wait for things to happen.'

We are much more reactive than active and for some reaction only stretches as far to mean we go in the direction the wind blows us, which isn't really reaction at all, rather just, lightweight-subconsciential-compliance

If you talk to those around you, whether that be the person dearest to you or the stranger at the bus stop. Chances are they are waiting for something - and not just the bus.

In just how many conversations do we hear or say that we are tired and cant WAIT to go to sleep, that we cant WAIT to leave work, cant WAIT for christmas, or pay day, or dinner time, or ... Eastenders... (shrugs)

Others of us base our feelings on what we are waiting for, we will feel better when we 'find the love of our life' or pursue that dream that we actually have little intention of ever actually pursuing because the fear of failure far outweighs the anticipation of potential success.

Besides, sometimes it's better to have something we can just 'dream' about.

We wait, some of us JUST wait, with little thought or care towards what it is we are waiting for.
Something will change, something will come and break the monotony. If it doesn't, that's ok, we will again just wait. something will happen!

There is a quiet satisfaction about our waiting, which a lot of us would struggle to admit. After all, we go on day by day, often not feeling a day closer to anything that we have been 'waiting' for and yet there is no heightened urgency or increased efforts to bring them about, no thought that  , 'no, maybe this bus doesn't come here...'

It would be easy and on occasion, accurate, to say this is just the product of a lazy, Hollywood induced, fast food cultured generation. A generation void of genuine patience and good old fashioned work ethic.
A generation with so much choice and access available to us we don't know how to 'stick things through.' or ride out the rough patches. Yes all these things play there part in wait and procrastinate mentalities but I think there's a bit more to it, at least for some of us.

Its almost as if we have become too smart, or at least too preemptive for our own good. It's as if we know that             while we like to wait for things that will 'make us happy', we know they wont necessarily make us happy when they arrive. Built within us as children (for those of us who actually got presents) was that steaming anticipation of a gift coming, and then realising upon its arrival, that beyond the initial window of gratitude and glee that came from getting what we wanted. Eventually, we are left with an emptiness that could only be filled by the desire of something else, something more. That this window tends to get shorter and shorter the older we get perhaps partly explains why we struggle to commit to getting the things that we want... for fear we just might get them.

My Bishop, uses a metaphor to describe this, loosely quoted;
 'Peoples dreams are like seeds in their hands. A source of hope... an opportunity; while that seed is in their hands they have something to hold onto, something to believe in and fend of questions regarding what they might have in store for their future.

The problem is to get anything out of a seed you have to plant it. This means facing the reality that there will be a time, often a long one where your hands are empty and there is nothing to show for, nothing to show off. '

Which is quite frightening.

but invariably true.

We wait then, for something to happen with seeds in our hands and soil at our feet. Afraid to reach out and invest our potential. Still hoping, but a ridiculous hope, not quite a false hope because the potential is still there, but a hope deferred. Hopelessly deferred.


The truth is, as I see it, that waiting for an environment to change our demeanour is naive and counter-productive. What is worse is when we cling onto that idea without doing anything that will actually affect that environment.

so what's the solution?

 If there is such a thing.

well, frankly if you want to see something happen or change in your environment, start doing something now. plant the seed today.

if you want to see a change in yourself. Do it now, plant the seed today!

it's such a simple solution to a world of problems, but as you read think of the way you would like to feel in your life right now. why are you not feeling that way?

Its easier than you might think to feel how you want to feel. In the space between your ears you have the powers, just alone through manipulation of suspended-reality, to make your self happy, sad, angry or put yourself in fits of laughter all in the next 5 minutes if you choose to. Why not choose how you feel on a more regular basis?

You'd probably be surprised on how natural it quickly becomes.

Furthermore.

Think of that thing you've been wanting to do... Why, why on earth have you not started it?




I teach maths and mentor young students. Regularly I tell them this.

Maths, like life, is just a series of simple steps that can look complicated when they are together.

i.e if you break every thing down in maths, and indeed in life, to the smallest point. there is a 1+1 step. something you can do that brings you closer to your goals and solving the overall equation.

Find me a truer statement.

I Deola sulola have started my Blog.

What will you start TODAY?


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Adios,.,